It almost seems too simple when you stop and really think about it. Every decision you make will always be motivated from a place of love or fear. This can be an incredibly empowering realization. With only two choices you can really sift through all of the other layers on top and decide simply between love and fear.
Those moments when you are scared you aren't good enough, you aren't smart enough, you aren't (fill in the blank) enough? That's the ego ... that voice inside who wants to reside in fear. Fear stops you from taking chances, from following your heart, fear encourages you to stay in a safe zone, to keep the status quo. Fear convinces you that you can't have whatever you want. That you are not able to grow and do good for others and have good come to back to you. It happens so quietly and quickly within that you barely even notice it happening. I'd say it's a constant struggle to not mindlessly give in to that nasty ego, to not make decisions on the basis of fear. It seems to be the knee-jerk reaction that our society is hardwired to.
Love? Now love, that's where it's at. Think about it! Love yourself, love your life and love those around you. Love the possibilities that reside in the unknown, in the opportunities that exist when you believe good things can happen in the world and to yourself. Love overturns the ego's nagging whispers. Love fills our hearts and souls with a goodness, dare I say it, a greatness that will spread to anyone who is lucky enough to be around you. Love encourages you to be brave, to take chances and to believe in yourself.
The next time you are faced with a decision that scares you and the answer isn't coming easily to yourself, stop and notice your internal dialogue. Has fear naturally started to settle in? Is there a voice within you that is trying to convince you to act out of fear? Try sitting in silence (even a minute or two can help, I promise) and listen to what comes up. If you hear fear based musings, remember and know that you CAN overcome them if you re-frame your response to come from a place of love. This is a skill and a practice that doesn't completely change overnight. I have been practicing choosing love for years and I still catch myself getting stuck in fear. In these moments of mindfulness, these moments of realization, I feel grateful for even noticing when fear has found its way back in - because it's only through noticing these reactions that I can continue to work towards making love the default motivation.